sooooo, surpriiiiiiiiiiiiise guys i have a boyfriend ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ ummm, actually i have kind of had one for a lil over two weeks now [don’t worry i’ll count the two weeks as halfway through my “one month rule”], my bad. Gentleman and i became official a few days after my last post about him, but i didn’t know what say about it ㅋㅋㅋ i’m not good at short posts and didn’t know how to announce it without being obnoxious. but now my brain is going to explode, so i figured i may as well let it explode onto my tumblr page. you’re welcome♥
things are going really well between Gentleman and i, and he is still the sweet and thoughtful guy i met weeks ago. the day after he asked me to be his girlfriend, he flew to China on a trip with two of his friends. he was gone for 5 days, but he messaged me whenever he returned to the hotel and sent pictures every day. i felt reassured that he is different than Cookies and some other exes who were not quite as thoughful. the day he came back he wanted to meet, and give me the snacks he bought for me in China. smart guy, he knows the way to my heart is through my stomach ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
so i bet you’re wondering why my brain is exploding if everything is sunshine and rainbows, right? well it’s because i’m going cray. in spite of his awesomeness, i find myself overthinking and over analyzing everything all the time, convincing myself that something is wrong and that he’s losing interest in me. i can’t understand it, except that it clearly has to do with a combination of self confidence issues coupled with the way my relationship with Cookies ended. i was so comfortable in my relationship with Cookies, and although towards the very end i felt like there were problems, i was blindsided by our breakup- not necessarily when it happened so much as how it happened. i just hate being caught unaware, as everyone basicically is, but i think now i’m going back to that place again. i think that if i get too comfortable and don’t use my 눈치, that our relationship will go adrift without even realizing it.
Kaytee told me it’s not fair to Gentleman or myself to harp on such things, that i need to let go of my baggage in order to have a healthy relationship, and she’s absolutely right. right now i’m struggling to have more faith in myself and in him, and keep the crazy side from taking over and creating problems when there are none. Gentleman knows about what happened with Cookies, but i don’t think he knows how it could affect our relationship now, but when it all comes down to it i’m the one who has the ability to prevent it.
even today i picked at him over something petty and unnecessary, and am disappointed that i let some crazy spill into our 카톡 chatroom. of course i immediately regretted it, but here he is reassuring me and being his sweet and thoughtful self yet again. he just sent me a ridiculous picture of himself making a kissy face with his eyes closed, blush marks on his cheeks, and little lips floating away from his mouth like an old school cartoon character, completely erasing all worries from my mind.
Alex, slow your roll and do not mess this up.
so me, the girl who is always making snarky comments about couples’ holidays actually … . had … . a date … on Valentine’s Day! duuuuun duuuuuuun DUUUUUUUUUNNNN!!!!
i know, i know. weird and out of the blue, right? well Bella and her bf Duckie set me up on a 소개팅 last weekend with one of her boo’s coworkers/후배. i heard all these good things about him, but he seemed too good to be true so i was suspicious until i saw a picture of him the week before. he was handsome!!! so the date took place as planned.
we went on a double date with Bella and Duckie, and i immediately felt comfortable around him. i came late because i had a school related memorial service that i had to attend last minute, so i was already kind of stressed. i rushed to get ready and waited in the rain for 10 minutes trying to find a taxi in my go-to taxi spot. when i arrived, i scurried in and apologized for being late, but in true Alex fashion i showed up with lipstick on my teeth [which Bella messaged me secretly on kakao ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 바보 알렉스]. after recovering from my initial embarrassment, though, conversation flowed really well.
soon after, he took my wrist in his hands looking really concerned asking “are you hurt?” and examining my wrist. confused, i answered “what?? no, i’m fine, why?” to which he replied “because you fell from heaven”. BAHAHAHAHAHAAA!! i could not stop laughing!! in my experience, many Korean people i’ve met don’t know/understand English pick up lines, so i was really surprised he was using them. he explained that when he heard i had to go to a memorial service and was rushing to get there, he figured i must have been stressed and in a bad mood. he looked up the pick up lines on his phone because he wanted to make me laugh and cheer me up when i got there. i was really impressed by that, and it was something that i continued to see throughout the rest of the night. he was very attentive and thoughtful, being quick to cater to me and ask me what i wanted. i like that. i like that very much~
over the following week, we talked every day about all different kinds of things, and he continued to make me laugh and make sure to assert how he was interested in me. i was a bit hesitant, however, wondering if i was too comfortable around him, whether or not i saw him as a man or as just another 동생. but the more we talked, the more i saw his more masculine/mature side and i started to like him more and more. it also helped that the thoughtfulness continued. one day he sent me a picture of my name which he had written in the snow. another day, it was a call to tell me he missed me and that he wanted to say goodnight before his phone died.
i had asked him what he was doing the following Friday on our first date, so we made plans to have dinner. as Friday drew near, i agonized whether or not i should make or buy him any chocolate in honor of Valentine’s Day. one of my male 동생’s said i can get him one small piece of chocolate, but only if i’m really interested because he will think i “love him” if i do that. i decided to buy him a box of Ferrero Rocher with 6 assorted kinds of chocolates. he was really excited about it when i gave it to him, and took a picture of it ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ his sister also called him during dinner, and he told her he was with Alex. i asked him later if he told her about me, and he said he did, that he had showed her my picture as well. i was surprised he did, but i was happy that he wasn’t keeping me a secret.
we spent the rest of the night after dinner just drinking and talking, and he gave me a really good goodnight kiss at my door before heading home.
i’ve decided to nickname him Gentleman, and i have a feeling i’ll be talking more about Gentleman very soon♥
The best dating advice.
It’s too accurate.
Happy Valentines Day loves♥
Florida’s second sensational, race-tinged murder trial in less than a year is underway. Michael Dunn, a white, 47-year-old software developer, shot and killed Jordan Davis, a 17-year-old African American, as the teen sat in an SUV with three friends. Charged with first-degree murder, Dunn is pleading self-defense under Florida’s controversial Stand Your Ground law. He contends that he argued with the teens (over what a witness says he called their “thug music”) and fired on them after he claims he saw Davis brandish a shotgun. Police found no gun at the scene, and witnesses say Davis never had one.
Like the George Zimmerman trial, during which the self-styled neighborhood watchman successfully argued that he shot and killed Trayvon Martin, an unarmed black teenager, in self-defense, Dunn’s case has raised questions about Florida’s broad self-defense law, racial profiling, and how the two issues intersect. Would Martin and Davis be alive if they weren’t black? Would they have been afforded the benefit of the doubt by their killers if they had been white? Their deaths didn’t happen in a vacuum. There’s evidence that just being black in the United States is often all it takes to arouse suspicion. Here are 21 examples from the last five years of some of the things black people can’t do without others thinking they’re up to no good.
1. Listen to loud music at a gas station.
2. Walk home from a snack run to 7-11.
3. Wear a hoodie.
5. Drive in a car with a white girl.
7. Walk on the wrong side of the street.
8. Wait for a school bus to take you to your high school basketball game.
9. Drink iced tea in a parking lot.
11. Inspect your own property.
12. Show up at your job.
13. Talk trash after an NFL game.
14. Throw a temper tantrum in kindergarten.
16. Buy designer accessories at Macy’s.
17. Be a 13-year-old boy.
18. Enter your own home.
20. Be a tourist.
21. Lay face down in handcuffs.
note to self: never pay full price for anything at 8 Seconds. today was my first time going in there, and there were more things i liked than i anticipated. problem was, i thought most of them were ridiculously over-priced. luckily there were a lot of things marked down, so i bought two things i liked~
an electric blue, gold-studded purse for ₩14,900 …
and a pair of light brown suede boots with gold buckles for ₩19,900.
but the thing is, the purse was marked down from ₩59,900, and the boots were marked down from ₩69,900. overall i saved ₩95,000!! granted, the quality isn’t amazing, and the boots fit a bit weird, but they were both good deals.
outside of things being over-priced, the most annoying thing about shopping at 8 Seconds today was that most of the sizes at the store i went to [in 남포] were the same in most items- small and extra small only. i usually wear a medium, but as these were all sale items, maybe all the larger sizes were taken? no clue.
i’ll have to stop by there again for their next sale~ and not because 8 Seconds is owned by the company Cookies works for and me getting their items cheaply is me secretly [but not really] getting one over on him in my mind. that’s not the reason at all.
but anyways, HA in your FACE!! heheh~~
yay!!! a fellow creeper!~~ thank you so much, it’s always a pleasure hearing that i’m not the only one laughing at my own jokes~~ i hope you continue to enjoy my blog, and i’ll continue to try harder to keep up with it too. thank youuuuuuuuuuu ♥_♥
i’m 27 years old “international age”, and technically 29 Korean age. because my birthday falls in January, before Lunar New Year’s Day, those who strictly follow Korean age would consider me 29, but 28 is usually as high as i’ll go ㅋㅋㅋ
i do miss the States sometimes, but i’m too distracted with life here most of the time. my hometown would be the place i move back to first, and it’s definitely not the easiest place to live. it’s been pretty segregated since i was a little girl, and it’s basically where dreams go to die. also, since my first full time job was in Korea, my senses of independence, freedom, financial stability, and my imaginary feeling of maturity are all connected to memories and experiences here.
usually when i miss home, i just miss individual people or places, but after going there, i’m excited to come back to Korea [as far as my everyday life goes, no disrespect fam ㅋㅋㅋ]. but my biggest reason to move back in a few years is definitely because of my family, i love and miss them so much.
thanks for the questions Anon, let me know if you have any more♥